At the Springs Law Group, we handle a variety of family law matters including divorce with or without children, legal separation, child custody, child support, and many other types of cases. One of the constant struggles we see across most of these types of cases is how to appropriately deal with an ex-partner. We want to provide five useful tips on how to effectively talk to your ex in a family law case.
Tip 1: Think before Making a Phone Call or Sending a Text or Email
Often, parties immediately react to the opposing side’s phone calls, texts or emails. This can be problematic because the initial reaction is usually an emotional one. If you have the chance to walk away for a bit before you respond, we highly recommend this as it will give you time to process your thoughts and compose an effective response instead of an emotional one.
Tip 2: Take the High Road
Often, some individuals resort to trading insults in their communications with each other. At the end of the day, this does not benefit either party or their children, if they have any. Our advice is to take the high road when communicating with an ex-partner during a case. The benefit of this is that as you stay positive in your communications, it may shift the general tone of the conversation. Additionally, it may help your relationship with the other person and allow you to avoid conflict.
Tip 3: Follow Court Orders
If you have prior Court Orders, follow those in your communications. If you have a Temporary Orders, Separation Agreement, or a Parenting Plan, reference the Order in your communications with your ex-spouse or partner. Always be the party that is following the Court Order. If there are disagreements between the parties, refer back to the Court Order before you act and respond with the specific section of the Court Order. We always advise our clients to follow Court Orders.
Tip 4: Keep Responses Short
We recommend that when you respond to the opposing party in a Family Law matter, you make your response clear and to the point. The reason for this is to stay focused, but also to prevent yourself from going off on tangents that could ultimately come back to hurt you in Court. By keeping your responses short, you avoid putting your foot in your mouth.
Tip 5: Talk to an Attorney
At times, you may need to speak with your family attorney before you respond to your ex-partner. We highly recommend this. We would rather our clients talk to us before they respond to the opposing side so we can suggest how to respond in a way that will not put your case at risk. As family law attorneys, we care about your case and one of our jobs is to protect you.
There are various other tips we can provide if you are having difficulty communicating with your ex-partner in your family law case. If you have more questions, please contact the attorneys at Springs Law Group LLC to schedule an initial consultation.